Speaking Your Way to a Blissful Marriage

How often do you say "I'm sorry" "Can I help with that?" or even "I love you" to your spouse? There are so many words and phrases that people tend to forget over the course of their marriage when it comes to talking to their spouse. There are also a few other phrases/words that you should remember when talking to your spouse.

Please is still a very magical word even as we grow up. Our parents taught us to use it often but through adulthood it seems to lose its magical meaning for some people. By adding please to just about any comment or question you can take what would have been a rude or unfeeling statement and turn it in to one that will be better received from the person you are talking to. A request will become less of a command and more of a kind and feeling request. By using this simple word people will be more pleased to assist you than if you were to just bark orders at them.

By simply using the word "please" you are giving the receiver the ability to view the request as just that, a request instead of a command. This will make people feel helpful and needed, something everyone like to feel. "Please" also give the person the ability to decline your request for assistance if they choose. This gives them the freedom to choose what they want to do and how they want to do it. Everyone wants to feel they are in command of their life at every moment.

Thank you is yet another phrase that seems to have been forgotten once the years start rolling by in a relationship, especially in a marriage. We are taught from the time we are able to talk that we must say "thank you" when we receive things or when someone helps us. Why if it was so instilled in us as children do we forget to say this simple phrase to the person we have pledge our life too?

Simply said people just get to comfortable together and forget. Saying "thank you" is simple and can be done each and every day. If your spouse cooks a wonderful dinner don't forget to say "thank you" or if your spouse helps you carry in the groceries make sure to say "thank you." You will see how quickly things become calm and simple. When people feel unappreciated they become upset and things will become tense between both spouses. These two simple words can work magic on a marriage.

These two words/phrases were taught to use as children when we needed to learn our manners. As you go through adulthood and your marriage remember your manners and use "please" and "thank you" not only with your spouse but with everyone you come into contact with.