Marriage: Sharing is Loving, Loving is Sharing

One simple and easy way to share your thoughts and feelings with your spouse is by talking. Studies have shown that in a couple women talk more than men, in fact they talk three times more than men. Although this may seem like a lot of talking being done, it still doesn't allow men not to say anything.

Although there are more instances where women do all the talking there are also instances where men are the ones who do most of the talking. Even if it is the woman doing most of the talking, this does not excuse the man from contributing to the conversation. If he clams up then it really isn't a conversation, since a conversation takes two people.

One of the most vital parts of a marriage is to have open lines of communication. Being open and honest is one of the many key ingredients that help to maintain a great marriage. Couples that communicate are proven to be more loving and emotionally secure in their marriage.

While some couples seem to come by open communication natural others need a little help to get on the right track. Learning how to share your heart can be difficult especially if there are underlying reasons why you feel the need to be guarded. Working though these issues will help not only open up the lines of communication but also improve your marriage. Here are a few simple and easy tips to help set you on the road to open communication and a healthy relationship.

The easiest way to start a conversation is to ask your spouse a question. Some of the easiest questions are said after work or after time apart such as "How was your day?" or "How was work?" these are open ended questions that should spark a conversation. If your partner answers in a short answer inquire further into the subject. For example if you as "How was your day?" and your spouse simply says "Fine." Ask then what they did or where they went. Sometimes you have to pull a conversation out of someone, especially if the lines of communication between the two of you are strained. Don't force a conversation but make sure your partner knows you are interested in talking if they want too.

Many married couples have become so close that they can finish each other's sentences much of the time. When you are trying to build or rebuild the lines of communication fight the urge to finish your partners sentence. You want your partner to feel like you have an ample amount of time to talk to them instead of making them feel as though you are rushed or impatient which is what happens when you finish their sentence.

You need to also make sure you are being a good listener when your partner is talking. Give the other person the floor to tell you their ideas, views, desires or anything else they want you to know. The worst part about talking to someone, is knowing they are not really listening. By opening the lines of communication you will see that sharing is loving and loving is sharing.